Intimacy

Intimacy might not be a four letter word, but it is a four-syllable word for, ''Here are my heart and soul. Please grind them into hamburger and enjoy. '' It's both desired and feared, difficult to live with  and impossible to live without. Intimacy also comes attached to life's three R's: Relatives, romance and regrets. There are some things you can't escape. And other things you just don't want to know.

You are the first person they see in the morning. You say please. You say thank you. You apologize for waking them up. You make them feel good about you. Why is that important? 'Cause then they'll talk to you and tell you what's wrong. Why is that important? Because then you can tell them how you are what they need to know. And why is that important? Because if you can't communicate with the ones you love, you won't make it through the hard stuff.

I wish there were a rule book for intimacy. Some kind of a guide that could tell you when you've crossed the line. You don't want lose anyone like that. It would be nice if you could see it coming. And I don't know, be able to fit it on a map and plan it's route. You take intimacy where you can get it and keep it as long as you can.

And as for rules. Maybe there are none. Maybe the rules of intimacy are something you have to define for yourself.

Balance

Opposites attract.  There's always one half that’s sensitive.  Wanting and aiming  to look at the good side of people.  The Mother Theresa approach to every situation.  Then there’s the other half, slightly more cutting.  A realest, like me that has absolutely no sympathy for snakes.  More often than not, objective over emotions.  “The mean one.”

Friends vs. Acquaintances

There are people you ride for and stay fiercely loyal to and there are absolute non factors. You treat em accordingly. To be friendly and to call someone a friend is two completed different things.

Aware Not Fearful

It’s rather unfortunate that 21 people were shot this weekend, on that same token perhaps humanity needs to change themselves. Anything can be utilized as a weapon, but without intent, it’s merely just an object. The media is a mirror of society, the culture and the lens it sees and fosters. Until people change their mindset and learn how to love this is exactly what we will see. Toronto is beautiful, be aware but don’t let these goons fear monger.

Like Seeks Like

Your not for everyone. Leaders, visionaries and strong people don’t generally have many friends, but when they do, they look like this. Quality over quantity.

Thank you

 

This was hard for me to accept as a young woman; I was convinced that no one knew what was best for me. This last decade of my life, and especially now as I start to see the rewards of years of planning, I am thankful to all those who pointed out my mistakes. I am thankful for your judgment and for telling me I was wrong, for being harsh and deliberate when showing me that I was wrong.

Behaviour, as it is, is mostly subconscious, the reasons for that behaviour are often invisible to our critical minds and the conflict between desire and emotions make it all harder still to see. It was when I embraced my own blindness, and allowed others to reflect who I really was that I saw myself properly, that I saw who I needed to be.

My only advice to you now, as I move into unknown territory is to heed the warnings the world of experience gives you. Take the "I told you so" moments seriously, they can teach you more than you expect. Make the most of criticism, take the most from rejection, stop thinking that you know better and life will make more sense.

Thanks furthermore, to my detractors, to my opposition; to those who made this journey challenging and difficult - you tested my character - and as I overcame the obstacles you placed in front of me that character became stronger.

Snip

 I cut people off with no hesitation.  No explanation and no warning if you do some phony shit or if I feel you can't be trusted.

Life is too short, and I'm getting too old to be associated with people who don't understand the concept of loyalty.

Can't trust Everybody.
Can't Love Everybody.
Can't Be Friends with Everybody.

Walk away with your truth

It’s better to be honest then hold resentment in your heart. You might not know what you want, but on hindsight you know what you don’t. Some people fall in love and some fall for the ideology of being in love, ultimately the truth will always find its way out. To like someone for a segment is possibly true but to fall out of it is just as true. It’s never what you walk away from, it’s what you walk away with.

Livin' The Dream

We live out our lives on the factory floor. Six days a week, eight hours a day. We're together more than we're apart. After a while the ways of work become the ways of life. Number one: always keep your paperwork in order. Number two: do whatever you can to outsmart the other guy. Number three? Don't make friends with the enemy. And number four: everything, everything is a competition. Whoever said that winning wasn't everything...never competed for what they really wanted. There's another way to survive this competition. A way that no one ever seems to tells you about. One you have to learn for yourself. Number five: it's not about the race at all. There are no winners or losers. Victories are counted by the number of days you lear work mentally, emotionally, and physically whole. And once in a while, if you're smart, you find another human being who understands and you make time for one another away from work.