Friday, June 8, 2018

Tread Lightly

A touch as soft as velvet
A voice as sweet as wine
An everchanging presence
With a stimulating mind
A smile that rivals sunshine
Her laughter light upon the breeze
Her general aura is embracing
But she's apt to change with ease


I can be loud and brash, within the right circumstances and company.  More often than not however, I even while laughing and joking around am quietly listening and watching.  I observe, continually what others do over what they say; but I am always listening to what is said as well.  My circle is tight and kept that way with good reason.  There are those whom believe themselves "friends" when they are by my standards nothing more than acquaintances.  My life and feelings wouldn't change should they happen to disappear from this world tomorrow.

Life will always continue thusly.

Should someone think themselves worthy of my time and or attention, they had best bring their A game.  I suffer not those whom think themselves superior, rockstars clamoring for attention, or closed minded bigots with diarrhea of the jaw.  I've found of the years nd even recently that those with said afflictions never have a clear grasp of the woman I am, or the meaning behind my silent smile.

More's the pity for them.

One such, human as entered my life over the past three months.  She's proven herself lacking and as of yet hasn't discerned the intent behind the silent smile.  Yet she persisted and pushes the closer to the line in the sand made of crushed glass and foes of yore.  Not ever sensing the danger she eagerly throws herself towards.  Chosen ignorance, a clear lacking of decorum, social grace, and common sense are humorous to be certain.  But like all jokes, told too oven and with far too much bravado, they not only cease to be funny; they become tiresome to the point of utter rejection.

I've grown, I've matured, I've sought out better manners in which to deal with conflict.  Yet there in the shadows lurks the attitude and fortitude to back it all up, when the need arises.  For all concerned I truly hope she learns to tread lightly and understand the company she wishes to keep.  I am far from above putting her in her place, harshly.
  

Friday, June 1, 2018

Do You Doubt Your Partner?

I am fortunate enough to say, I do not doubt my partner at all.  The one major rule we have is and has always been, complete honesty.  Sometimes it can be  uncomfortable, but it is so worth it and it has made us stronger.  However if you are doubting any part of your relationship or your partner try asking yourself a few or all of these questions. 

There are no right or wrong answers, just answers that will give you greater insight. 

1. Do you completely trust each other?
2. Do you believe in soul mates, and if so, do you believe you are each other’s?
3. When was the last time you said, “I love you?” If it’s been a while, why?
4. Are you satisfied with the intimacy you share?
5. How often do you laugh together?
6. Do you feel you have made personal sacrifices for your relationship, and have they been reciprocated?
7. When you think of your partner, do you smile?
8. Do you feel threatened when others find your partner attractive, and why?
9. Do you believe your partner is your biggest advocate?
10. How do you feel about your partner’s views on finances?
11. Do you enjoy spending time with your partner’s relatives? Friends?
12. Do either of you dredge up resentments in arguments, and why have you struggled to let them go?
13. How do you feel when your partner arrives home after being away?
14. Is your partner your best friend?
15. Is there a secret you are keeping that if your partner knew, you feel you would lose them?
16. Do you feel that your partner accepts you?
17. When did you realize you had fallen in love, and how do you feel when you think about it?
18. Have you seen each other at your best and worst?
19. Would you ever consider having an affair? Why? Why not?
20. Are you excited about your future together?
21. Do you feel your relationship is a true partnership?
22. When was your last romantic outing?
23. Does it bother you if your partner has friends of the opposite sex, and why?
24. Do you accept each other’s belief systems?
25. When was the last time you talked about your future together, and were you on the same page?
26. Do you feel as if you can communicate without saying a word?
27. What is your happiest memory of your time together? Your worst? Are there more happy memories than unhappy ones?
28. What is a relationship deal breaker for you, and have you overlooked one in this relationship?
29. How do you feel about the last, in-depth conversation you and your partner had?
30. Do you show your love for each other often, and if not, why?